Diagnosed with Social Anxiety

What to expect when diagnosed with Social Anxiety

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Should I Tell My Child About Social Anxiety?

There are so many ways to support your child with a social anxiety diagnosis.  Depending on the intensity of support, and your own child’s personality, you may have reservations about letting your child know that they have a diagnosis.  If you are working with a therapist for social anxiety, seek out their support in facilitating a conversation, or age-appropriate language.  Some children feel a sense of relief and validation in having a diagnosis, while for other children, a diagnosis may exacerbate their symptoms. If you aren’t sure what to do, don’t feel pressured to decide right away.  You may want to gather more information from your doctor, care providers, and teachers and then decide. 

How Do I Explain Social Anxiety to My Child?

If you do decide to tell your child about their diagnosis, be ready with how you want to explain their diagnosis and what next steps you are taking to support them through their anxious feelings. You may want to emphasize that having anxious feelings is something that most everyone experiences from time to time, and for your child, they are experiencing so frequently that it is keeping them from enjoying and/or participating with others.

For instance, you may say something like, “We are visiting the therapist today because we learned that your brain looks at the world in a unique way. Your brain is working very hard to keep you safe and out of danger…and it has done a good job. Sometimes your brain is telling you that something is dangerous when it isn’t….like (give an example here that comes from your child) going to storytime at the library. Sometimes when things are new, your brain is worried you won’t be safe, and gives you an anxious feeling even when you are safe. So we need to work on understanding when situations are safe so you aren’t overwhelmed by these anxious feelings all the time.  That must be exhausting!”

What is Exposure Therapy?

Exposure therapy has been shown to be an effective tool to support children with social anxiety. This type of therapy takes a gentle approach to exposing your child to situations that may produce anxiety.  For instance, if going to the park feels overwhelming because other kids may be present, walk through a plan. It may be as simple as walking by the park to begin with.  Gradually, you may plan to go to the park for a set amount of time or do a certain activity.  This might look like working with your child to go down the slide 5 times and then heading back home.  As you expose the child, in small steps, to the situation that is causing them anxiety, they begin to use their coping strategies and feel less anxious each time.  However, as with many things, this is not a linear progression.  Your child may have some good experiences, and some challenging experiences.  The important thing is to continue to make plans and keep them, with your child, as well as talk to your care provider about how things are going.

Can Mindfulness and Meditation Help With Social Anxiety?

Mindfulness and Meditation can be extremely helpful. Children who are working through anxiety can use mindfulness and meditation practices to regulate and calm themselves. Arming your child with some mindfulness techniques can help them work through those anxious moments.


There are countless resources.  Two books that I have found very helpful are Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents by Reid Wilson and Lynn Lyons, and Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls by Lisa Damour. Although Under Pressure is written with girls in mind, it has great conversation starters and techniques that all children can benefit from, in addition to helpful guides for parents.

Tools for Success for Social Anxiety

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Sensory toys can help improve your focus, lift your mood, and even relieve mental and emotional stress. Unfortunately, not all fidgets are created for environments that require you to maintain absolute focus. Spinners were popular for a time, but have you ever wondered why the hype died down? Despite every kid in the classroom owning one, people quickly realized how distracting they were. But that doesn’t mean you have to go back to tapping fingers or picking at your nails.
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Yogi fidget toys have become increasingly popular as stress-relieving gadgets that help improve focus and concentration. These little gadgets are perfect for those who like to fidget or need something to occupy their hands during idle moments. Yogi fidget toys are small enough to fit in a pocket or purse and are made from high-quality materials, ensuring durability and longevity. They come in a variety of colors and designs, making them an excellent gift for both children and adults. So, if you're looking for a unique and practical gift, a Yogi fidget toy is a perfect choice.
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Made Of Good Quality Stainless Steel With An Anodized Coating, Durable, Reusable, Rust-Proof And Not Easy To Fade.

These Massaging Rings Can Reduce Anxiety, Relieve Stress, Can Promote The Blood Circulation Of The Finger To A Certain Extent, Very Suitable For Students, Office Workers, etc.
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Made of hypoallergenic stainless steel, spinning rings for anxiety are highly polished smooth and shiny surface, durable and tarnish resistance. Perfect size fits your finger. While spining, this anxiety fidget ring will help to re-focus on yourself instead of the anxiety.
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Discover the PushPeel Sensory Activity Board – a humble creation designed in NY to offer a tech-less alternative for families seeking simple, satisfying play. It's not just a toy; it's a parental aid that supports developmental growth and fosters moments of joy and tranquility. Designed with care, this board provides a tactile experience that captivates both kids and adults alike. This patent pending system encourages fine-motor skills and imaginative problem-solving, all while promoting a sense of achievement in its users. The silicone board is reinforced with a backer plate, enabling users to play comfortably on their lap or in their hands. The backer remains permanently attached, requiring no intervention from the user. Occupational therapists praise its effectiveness in stimulating cognitive development, making it a humble addition to any home. Whether used as a quiet pastime or a means of settling nerves, the board serves as a gentle reminder of the beauty found in simplicity. Embrace bliss and quiet contentment with the Pushpeel.
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Wooden shapes Matching+ is a memory game with a sensory twist! Includes four different game modes from solo to competitive. The starter shape puzzles allow kids 3+ to put together 20 2-piece learning puzzles. The sensory matching game is a sensory mode that is all about touch. The shape memory game is shape sorting with a memory element. Finally competitive play allows up to 6 players to face-off in sensory matching. With durable wooden pieces, this game is designed to last. It’s a matching game that gives you the feels!
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Discover the ultimate stress relief with YoYa Toys Pull, Stretch and Squeeze Stress Balls. These durable elastic balls provide effective anxiety reduction and endless fun. Crafted with excellent craftsmanship, they fit comfortably in your hand for on-the-go stress relief. Stimulate fine motor skills and creativity while managing stress. Perfect for kids and adults, including those with special needs. Experience the soothing effects and find calm with YoYa Toys Stress Balls.
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INCREASE FOCUS – Bouncyband Wiggle Feet is a silent fidget and ADHD tool that provides an outlet for excess energy. It facilitates movement while at school or work,

GREATER PRODUCTIVITY – This under desk fidget tool quietly facilitates movement while at school or work. The relaxing deep pressure and dual chamber air flow allow for just the right amount of motion, perfect for sensory and anxiety tools.

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Soothing & Relaxing Feeling
Need a quick break to declutter your mind or take your mind off the things that are stressing you out? Our liquid motion frothing timer can help you.

Liquid motion bubbler timer are especially suitable for office workers, people who work beside the computer for a long time.
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The sensory toys are specially designed for Autism ADHD and SPD, help them calm down and focus attention, reduce tension and restlessness.

Sensory teething necklace for autistic children is the natural way to be recommended for kids and teens to diverts chewing from fingers and clothing, reduce nail-biting and thumb sucking.
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Conscious, controlled breathing exercises have been shown to be one of the best ways to calm down, relax, and release negative energy and emotions. Our breathing pendant may help you to reduce stress, prevent burnout, loosen up muscles, slow down your heart rate, and help increase lung volume. Proper breathing is essential to optimal well being. Just breathe in slowly through the nose, hold for a few moments, and slowly exhale through the pendant.
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Exquisite Appearance and Smooth Surface:
these thumb stones are made of quality soft clay, light in weight, polished and carved into vivid shapes; Besides, the smooth surface can provide with a nice touch feeling, soothing and calming your emotions

Ideal for Relieving Your Stress:
these healing stones for anxiety adopt an vivid shape design, with a thumb indentation in the middle that allows you to rub your thumb against the stone for positive energy, relieving your anxiety